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Kimberly Oakes, LMFT
My strength is working through complex problems with enthusiasm, patience, compassion, balance, and without being one-sided or biased.

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Kimberly Oakes, LMFT

Location

Licensed In

NY

Approach

Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), Emotionally focused therapy (EFT), Gottman method couples therapy, Interpersonal psychotherapy (IPT), Motivational interviewing (MI), Relational, Strengths-based

Therapy Style

No one marries to get divorced. If you are presenting for couples therapy, then one or both of you are seeking relief from the distress in your relationship. It has been said that we fall in love with who our partner says we are and who they see us to be. If they say we are funny and brilliant, we want to believe them. We are who they say we are, or are we?

At the core of relational distress are many strong or big emotions that need to be felt, witnessed, validated, and sorted by both parties. My strength is working through complex problems with enthusiasm, patience, compassion, balance, and without being one-sided or biased. This is a tall order for most, but I have experienced a great deal of success helping couples do just that because I love my work. People ask if I can tell if they should give up or call it quits. I say it will take two to start over and to keep trying, but I only need one hero at any one time in a relationship to right the wrongs. You may be tired and have given up hope, but I have plenty of hope to go around so why not try again.

We will work on communication, resentments, betrayal, trust, and how to better meet each other's needs. After all, you chose this person, and probably not just for how they made you feel but for who you are together.

Education

BS - Cornell University, Johnson School of Business

MA - The School of Marriage and Family Therapy, Syracuse University

License Number and State

NY 001196

Pronouns

she/her

What are your interests outside of work?

I enjoy pursuing a healthy lifestyle and spending time with family. I enjoy learning about new topics or subjects that matter to my community, to my clients, or that peak my interest. I seek to relax in nature or by crafting.

What is one thing you do daily that supports your mental and emotional well-being?

Pursuing a healthy lifestyle daily helps me to remain balanced and centered.

How do you recharge?

I enjoy crafting which helps me to decompress through color and texture. I recharge by being in nature and through solitude.

Do you have any pets?

We have two dogs and I love how they cuddle with us and connect us together. Toby is our oldest pup and he is annoyed by his teen-aged sister dog, Willow. When they play they are just like siblings and can be pretty silly vying for our attention.