Estranged From Your Adult Child? When Therapy Can Help, and When It Can’t
Adult child estrangement is when a grown child reduces or ends contact with a parent, often after a long buildup of hurt, conflict, or unmet needs on one or both sides. Therapy can help you cope with the loss, understand your child's perspective, and respond in ways that respect their boundary and leave room for repair. It cannot make your adult child reconcile. If you're one of the many parents of estranged adult children , you may be carrying grief, confusion, guilt, and sometimes anger, often without knowing whether you'll reconnect. That mix is common, and it's one of the most painful experiences a parent can go through. You're far from alone. A 2020 national survey of 1,340 US adults led by Cornell sociologist Karl Pillemer found that 27% were estranged from a family member, and about 10% were estranged from a parent or child. This guide explains why estrangement happens, what therapy can and cannot do, when joint sessions make sense, and how to care for yourself while leaving room for future contact. If you're in crisis, call or text 988 or go to the nearest emergency room. At a glance: Estranged adult children and therapy