Last UpdatedDec 19th, 2025•5 min read
How to Know If You Need Therapy
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Octave Therapy
Sometimes life throws you major challenges — like the loss of a loved one or a traumatic event — that can be overwhelming and clearly signal the need for help from a therapist.
For many, though, the need for therapy isn't always signaled by dramatic life events, but rather by subtler, persistent feelings that quietly influence your well-being. Warning signs for depression, anxiety, burnout, and substance use can show themselves in life experiences that you least expect. Reflect on whether any of these signs are present in your own life, and if they are, consider taking action.
New Life Transitions
Whether you’re starting a new job, moving to a new city, becoming a parent, or entering into a new relationship, even positive life changes can bring about a mixture of excitement and stress. These transitions can disrupt your routines, social support network, and more. Bearing the weight of these transitions can become overwhelming, even when the change is welcome.
Life transitions can also dredge up past traumas or unresolved emotional wounds. For instance, becoming a parent might trigger negative memories from your own childhood. Transitions can re-open past experiences that you previously thought were resolved, forcing you to confront unhealed wounds.
Feelings of Inadequacy or Lack of Fulfillment
You might feel plagued by thoughts that you’re not good enough for your partner, experience repeated negative self-talk at work, or have a negative view of yourself. These thoughts and emotions can create a pervasive feeling of dissatisfaction that profoundly and negatively impacts your mental health.
By working with a therapist, you can unpack the underlying causes behind these feelings, whether rooted in past experiences, your self-perception, or external pressures. A therapist can help you reframe negative thought patterns, build self-compassion, and develop healthier coping strategies through approaches like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. By working with a therapist to make these changes, you can walk away with a greater sense of self-worth and empowerment.
Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms
We all have ways of coping with stress or overwhelming emotions. Sometimes, you may choose healthy coping mechanisms that support our well-being in both the short- and long-term – like running, yoga, meditation, or talking it out with a trusted friend.
There are other coping mechanisms that might make you feel better in the short-term, but have negative impacts in the long-term. This can include everything from drinking, drugs, and risky behaviors, to seemingly innocuous things like avoidance, procrastination, restrictive dieting, excessive use of social media, or isolating from other people.
If you find yourself engaging in coping mechanisms that negatively impact your well-being, it can be a sign to talk to a therapist. Therapists are trained in helping people turn away from unhealthy coping mechanisms and build new, healthier ways to cope.
Inability to Nurture Healthy Relationships
A life without healthy, meaningful connections to other people can be incredibly isolating and lonely. If you find yourself caught in cycles of failed connections, bad relationships, or avoiding other people altogether, it can really hurt your overall well-being.
Therapy provides a space to explore these relationship challenges. By delving into past experiences, negative core beliefs, communication barriers, or behavioral patterns, therapy approaches like Acceptance and Commitment Therapy can help you foster self-awareness and remove barriers that prevent you from connecting to other people. By working collaboratively with a therapist, you can gain insights into relational dynamics, learn strategies to navigate conflicts, set boundaries, and cultivate more meaningful connections.
Emotions Feel Out of Control
Overwhelming anger, anxiety, sadness, or stress can leave you feeling out of control. You might feel like you’re on an emotional rollercoaster, unable to predict how you’ll react to any situation, and then unable to manage your reactions as you experience them. This lack of emotional control can damage your relationships to others and your own well-being.
Therapy provides a supportive space to explore and understand these overwhelming emotions. It offers tools and techniques to identify triggers, regulate emotions, and build resilience.
Through therapy, you can learn to navigate intense feelings more effectively, gaining insight into their origins and developing healthier emotion regulation strategies. The emotional awareness you gain in therapy can help you feel more in control of your reactions and experience a more balanced mood.
Desire for Growth
Maybe you’re feeling restless or find yourself longing for things to be different in your life. Whether you’re looking to make big changes or small ones, figuring out how to approach changing your life can feel like an insurmountable task when faced on your own.
When faced with this challenge, therapy can act as a supportive guide. Through collaborative exploration, therapy helps you uncover your values, aspirations, and goals. Your therapist can help you identify the changes you want to make and where to begin, providing you with structure and accountability to make real change in your life. Therapy can be a catalyst to move you forward, helping you create the life that you truly want to live.
